14 quotes
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.
Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
Worrying and anxiety go together, but worry is not an emotion; it’s the thinking part of anxiety.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
Shame hates to have words wrapped around it. If we talk about it, it loses its grip on us.
...the biggest mistake people make is not acknowledging fear and uncertainty.
The near enemy of love is attachment...True love allows, honors, and appreciates; attachment grasps, demands, needs, and aims to possess.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
People will do almost anything to not feel pain, including causing pain and abusing power
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
I’ve learned that power is not bad, but the abuse of power or using power over others is the opposite of courage; it’s a desperate attempt to maintain a very fragile ego.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
Just as healing physical pain requires describing it, talking about it, and sometimes getting professional help, we need to do the same thing with emotional pain.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
We have to belong to ourselves as much as we need to belong to others. Any belonging that asks us to betray ourselves is not true belonging.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)
‘Crazy-busy’ is a great armor, it’s a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we’re feeling and what we really need can’t catch up with us.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.
Science is not the truth. Science is finding the truth. When science changes its opinion, it didn’t lie to you. It learned more.
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience (2021)