The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man.

Sometimes published as an anonymous saying, this was attributed to Bishop Samuel Wilberforce in Henry Rowley, Is It Nothing To You? Social Purity, A Grave Moral Question (1884), p. 88; to Samuel Taylor Coleridge in "Would You Be Re-elected", Munsey's Magazine (April 1909), p. 769; and to de Staël in Aspects of Western Civilization: Problems and Sources in History (2003), p. 294