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Quotes from Why Men Are the Way They Are — Warren Farrell

born 1943 United States

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The Female Western is the battle between the good and evil methods of getting the men who perform best.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

One danger of a man succeeding is that it teaches his wife and daughter not to worry about success.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

He gets sex, she gets sex; if that is considered unequal, no wonder men are afraid of commitment.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Only when a woman shares male risks can she really begin to understand men.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

From evening soaps to preteen romances, [the message is that] inner values are for losers.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Sex role training becomes divorce training.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Women’s vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men’s confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Our choice of partners is one of the clearest statements about our choice of values.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

For the first time in human history the psychology that is a prerequisite for intimacy has become the psychology that is a prerequisite for species survival.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

I would suggest that just as women who make it in the world of business need male business mentors, perhaps men who make it in the world of emotions will need female emotional mentors.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Commitment often means that a woman achieves her primary fantasy, while a man gives his up. In exchange for forfeiting his primary fantasy, what does he hope to fulfill? His primary need: intimacy.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

When men in relationships have more money, we say they have the power. When women in relationships have more money, we say they are being used.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

When men give lines, women learn to not trust men. When women wear makeup, men learn to not trust women. Male lines and female makeup are divorce training.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman.

Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)

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Quotes and notes from Wikiquote: Warren Farrell (page history), available under CC BY-SA 4.0.