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No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Misandry – or man hating – is the equivalent of misogyny. If you are unaware of misandry, welcome to the club.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
All of this is men’s genetic heritage. However, men’s genetic heritage is in conflict with their genetic future.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
The best way to use these lists to replace anger with love in real life is to nurture each other by doing for your partner what your partner normally does for you.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Empathy for women is an attribute of masculinity. When men play the protector role they are trying to save a woman from grief or pain. If they had no glimpse of her grief or pain, they wouldn’t know when to protect.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Notice that much of what men do is also done by single mothers so appreciating what men do also helps us appreciate what single moms do.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
The ridicule is pressure to consider ourselves less important than someone even more precious: A baby is more precious than a mother; a woman is more precious than a man.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
In brief, when women batter, men’s first priority is to support the women and help them change; when men batter, women’s first priority is to escape the men and put them in prison.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Why did virtually every culture reward its men for enduring violence? So it would have a cadre of people available to protect it in war.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
After a conflict, women are not only more likely to turn to other womenfriends for support, but are nine times more likely to be with their children should conflict become divorce.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
If we believe that it is predominantly men who batter women, it is hard to see why women also need to change: We will continue saying, “Just change the men. They’re the batterers.”
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Women are socialized to take advantage of four informal options for emotional support: husbands; womenfriends; children; and parents. Men are socialized to take advantage of only one of these informal options: their wife or womanfriend.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
In the past, socializing men to become the best killer-protectors led to the survival of the “fittest.” In the future, with nuclear technology, training killers is more likely to lead to the destruction of everyone.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in “Yes, I made a bad choice,” but as in “How does this choice reflect my values?”
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Men’s life expectancy was one year less than women’s in 1920; today, it is seven years less, yet the federal government has only an Office of Research on Women’s Health.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Look under the “Love and Friendship” section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
The people considered the most in need of protection were women and children. The sex considered most disposable was men – or males....
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)