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While no vision of the future can be perfect, the goal of The Boy Crisis is to integrate the half century of national discussion about the challenges faced by girls and women with an equally nuanced national discussion about those facing boys and men.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me and say, “I want a divorce; my partner understands me.”
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
It is often said that women are a civilizing balance to the innately warlike male. By taking care of the killing for women it could be said that men civilized women. When survival was the issue, men killing to protect what women bore was the male form of nurturance.
The Myth of Male Power (1993)
Notice that much of what men do is also done by single mothers so appreciating what men do also helps us appreciate what single moms do.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
Sometimes I have a feeling, when I look back on my life, that all I’ve been through has prepared me perfectly for just what I’m doing now.
Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994)
Irony: While we increasingly hold people more responsible if they drink and drive, we hold women less responsible if they drink and have sex.
The Myth of Male Power (1993)
The ridicule is pressure to consider ourselves less important than someone even more precious: A baby is more precious than a mother; a woman is more precious than a man.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
In brief, when women batter, men’s first priority is to support the women and help them change; when men batter, women’s first priority is to escape the men and put them in prison.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent. – page 97.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn’t exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.
Interview by Jonathan Robinson (1994)
Why did virtually every culture reward its men for enduring violence? So it would have a cadre of people available to protect it in war.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
If we want our children to have a balance between their abilities to earn money and show love, it will help if both their parents model that balance. – page 114.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
In brief, when a man fails as a wallet, we put him in prison; when a woman fails as a mother, we offer her social services. We’re taking a criminal approach to men, a social services approach to women.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
Preparing his son to be a football hero was Jack’s dad’s unconscious way of preparing Jack for manhood by preparing him to sacrifice his body in exchange for the social bribes of being praised and valued.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
When I see dads being most effective with children, it is usually when they have an intuitive understanding that, for example, the car trip to and from the soccer game is potentially as important as the game itself.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
When unmarried couples live together when their child is born, by the child’s third birthday, 40 percent of those children will have no regular contact with their dad for the next two years—between ages three and five.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
On a deeper level, if our sons are learning they are obscene, disgusting, and untrustworthy, is this the best preparation for fatherhood? And is it the best preparation for becoming a mother -- to feel this way about her son?
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
Three-quarters of dads who were in South Carolina jails for being behind in child support payments suffer from extreme poverty. And one-eighth of all South Carolina inmates are in jail for being behind in child support payments.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
When grandpa was a dad, no research documented why a dad’s typical style of hands-on parenting, such as roughhousing, or his expectation that his children serve rather than be served, was so crucial to his children’s development.
The Boy Crisis (2018)