495 quotes
Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work.
Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)
“The best parent is both parents” means mommy is no substitute for daddy, money is no substitute for daddy, and another man is no substitute for daddy.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him.
The Myth of Male Power (1993)
When men give lines, women learn to not trust men. When women wear makeup, men learn to not trust women. Male lines and female makeup are divorce training.
Why Men Are the Way They Are (1988)
Boys who are not interested in school almost always have an interest that can be catalyzed into future employment if it is pursued via hands-on experience.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
What’s true is that everyone is uncomfortable with expressing anger and being critical. Anger and criticism generates rejection. And everyone hates rejection.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
I discuss men in a book about boys because men are the role models who either offer your son structure and inspiration, or leave him rudderless and depressed.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
The more our children see men being paid to take responsibility for children, the more respectable it will be for men to do work compatible with their role as dads.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
In my forty-five years of forming men’s groups, I have never heard of a man who was actively involved in a men’s group being hospitalized for depression, or commit suicide.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
Traditional men make their sacrifices in significant measure in the hopes of being appreciated when they come home, and having their learning experiences integrated into their homes.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-’70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce.
Father and Child Reunion (2001)
Especially in the military, hazing helps recruits amputate each other’s individuality because the war machine works best with standardized parts, not with people who say, “I’m special.”
The Boy Crisis (2018)
Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they’d be laughed out of the company.
The Myth of Male Power (1993)
If your son is nontraditional, he needs to know that the most important work of his life is selecting a woman who is free enough from social constraints to free him from social constraints.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
A desire to be nurtured is in our son’s nature. But it’s a nature we don’t often nurture.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
Whether or not we know our dad, we have a relationship with him. The relationship in our mind is our relationship.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
By age eighty-five, men’s suicide rate is 1,650 percent higher than that of women the same age.
Women cry, men die.
The Boy Crisis (2018)
When we give trust, we receive trust. And people who trust us pay attention to us.
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)
When we suggest that men are at the top because men discriminate, we miss the point. Men are at the top of the work hierarchy because work has been primarily men's responsibility.
Why Men Earn More (2005)