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Privilege has always been a dulling factor in one’s comprehension of human difference.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
Suicide is often a failure of community, and claiming it as inevitable is a defense against that failure.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
Politics is a consequence of how a person understands their experience.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
All human beings, by virtue of being born, deserve care, recognition, protection, fairness, and opportunity.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
We should not isolate, denounce, and punish people for being human.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
People need interactive conversations, even short ones, in order to understand each other.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
People do things for reasons, even if they don’t know what those reasons are.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
All human beings deserve to be heard and considered.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
If someone wishes to alter a relationship, they must discuss it with the other person, negotiate the change, and listen to the other person’s account. There is no ethical way around it.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
The law is designed to protect the state, not the people who are victimized by the state.
Growing up with chaos can make it harder to know how to create order as an adult.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
Good groups help their family, friends, and community members recognize and dissipate anxiety rather than joining them in acting out cruelly against others.
There is little more destructive than the passive bystander allowing cruelty to be freely imposed.
Punishment, as we know, rarely does anything but produce more pain.
The gentrification mentality is rooted in the belief that obedience to consumer identity over recognition of lived experience is actually normal, neutral, and value free.
No answer is not an answer. It is unreasonable to expect other people to interpret our silences.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
There is no correlation between having the ability to punish and being right. More often than not, the wrong people get punished. And the punishers use their power to keep from being accountable.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
The business of psychological studies is a messy one. There are so many and they contradict each other, but like poetry, they can stimulate thought.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
In the embodiment of the good group, through the therapist, a person can be helped to understand their own motivations, reactions, and choices, to achieve an ongoing desire for awareness.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)
There are options, and even though anxiety may make the reality of choices elusive, they still exist. Recognize the existence of the anxiety, then strive to overcome it in order to perceive other options.
Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair (2016)