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born 1974 Nigeria
Lola Shoneyin (born Titilola Atinuke Alexandrah Shoneyin; 26 February 1974) is a Nigerian poet and author who launched her debut novel, The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives, in the UK in May 2010. Shoneyin has forged a reputation as an adventurous, humorous and outspoken poet, having published three volumes of poetry.
Also known as: Lola shoneyin
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Once you crash the idea of normal in your mind, all impossibilities become possible.
A real woman must always do the things she wants to do, and in her own time too. You must never allow yourself to be rushed into doing things you're not ready for.
Husband-sharing is ugly and, one way or another, someone's dreams are crushed when a new wife joins a household.
Anyone who laughs at you for showing your family respect is a fool.
The choices we have to make in this world are hard and bitter. Sometimes we have no choices at all.
The world has no patience for spinsters. It spits them out.
“Men are so simple. They will believe anything.”
“My daughters were born with eyes in their stomachs so they are quick to digest all that they see.”
“If you drag her by the hair, she’ll follow you anywhere, I swear it!”
When a plan does not go right, you plot again. One day you will succeed. One day you will be able to damage the person who hurts you so completely that they will never be able to recover.
“Only a foolish woman leans heavily on a man's promises”
My fingers liked the feel of money. My eye liked to see the piles of money swell. I worshipped money.
Let us not allow the world to see our shame, let us keep our secrets from those who may seek to mock us
Now, in my working life as a teacher and writer, and as a mother of four children, I watch with horror when women of my generation opt to be second or third wives. And I have been shocked by the ease with which men in their mid-30s marry additional wives.
Baba Segi only comes to deposit his seed in my womb. He doesn’t smile or tickle me. He doesn’t make jokes about my youth; he just rams me into the mattress…
Your father left me for a beautiful woman. I told him I was pregnant but he didn’t want to hear it. He sliced me like okra and left.
Men are nothing. They are fools. The penis between their legs is all they are useful for. And even then, if not that women needed their seed for children, it would be better to sit on a finger of green plantain. Listen to my words. Only a foolish woman leans heavily on a man’s promises.
The sad truth is, polygamy constitutes a national embarrassment in any country that fantasises about progress and development. Polygamy devalues women and the only person who revels in it is the husband who gets to enjoy variety. You, poor women, will become nothing more than a dish at the buffet.
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